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Divorce from the children's point of view

Some Massachusetts parents remain in loveless marriages way past their expiration dates because of misguided ideas that it's what is best for the children. Huffington Post composed a representative sampling from a recent Reddit thread by adults who were children of divorce who were discussing the way(s) their parents' divorces affected them.

Some felt a sense of relief when the split actually took place even if a divorce was never obtained due to religious reasons. Another took out his anger and frustration by bullying classmates at school, but upon noticing the fear and confusion apparent in his younger sister's reaction to the divorce, became very protective of her.

Still others rebelled against the divorce by acting out and then blaming their actions on the divorce rather than accepting responsibility for their mistakes.

One Redditor noticed the lack of money in their single parent home and admired his mother's struggles to work two and three jobs to pick up the slack from an absentee dad.

As can be expected, they didn't appreciate a parent who badmouthed the other and dreaded those weekends when they would have to listen to the negativity.

Another common theme was that the children were happy when their parents showed signs of happiness after divorcing, which helped convince them that the decision to divorce was for the best.

But even those whose parents didn't split until their children reached adulthood admitted to feelings of hurt and loss when they realized that their parents' marriages were torn asunder.

Divorce should never be the first option -- a knee-jerk reaction to marital strife. To make the smoothest transition for all, divorce should be a decision made after a lot of soul-searching and discussion. A Massachusetts family law attorney is a good source of advice and counsel during turbulent times. He or she may also be able to recommend a good family or children's therapist to help family members adjust to the new normal, post-divorce.

Source: Huffington Post, "7 Ways Divorce Affects Kids, According To The Kids Themselves" Brittany Wong, Aug. 28, 2014

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