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If I earn more than he does, is he more likely to cheat?

Back in the 70s, there was a popular perfume being marketed to the woman who could do it all — bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan and never let her husband forget he was a man. It seemed that a woman like that truly could have it all, whatever "it" currently represented.

However, one survey put out by Working Mother Media suggests that these female breadwinners may not be the ideal to which married women should aspire. Research suggests that men who are totally financially dependent upon their wives had higher risks of cheating on them, with three times higher rates of infidelities than those men who were themselves the breadwinners in their relationships.

The author of the study, a University of Connecticut assistant sociology professor, blamed the higher rates of cheating on traditional perceptions of "cultural notions of what it means to be a man and what ... the social expectations are for masculinity."

Men's masculinity can be threatened by the concept of economic dependence on women, e.g., their wives. Some, in order to re-claim their masculine roles in the relationships, may consciously or unconsciously turn to another woman when they perceive a threat to their status.

Conversely, female breadwinners with husbands who were economically dependent on them had the least instances of cheating among the female participants.

It's likely that their recognition of their gender role reversals in their marriages may give them twinges of guilt for splintering social norms. They may even feel compelled to boost their spouse's masculinity by taking on more typically feminine tasks like housework in addition to working full-time.

These women also may be less prone to cheat because there simply aren't enough hours in the day to have assignations with another partner.

Statistics provided by the Pew Research Center indicate that 40 percent of families with children have a woman who is either the primary or sole provider for the family. As women continue to further their educations, this trend will likely continue, even though some college and grad school men surveyed seemed sure that their present or future spouses will be the supplemental earners in the relationships.

While it may be important who earns the money during the marriage, it becomes even more so during a divorce. If you are the breadwinner, your husband may seek spousal support from your earnings.

Source: CNN, "Husbands of female breadwinners most at risk for cheating, says study," Kelly Wallace, accessed Jan. 06, 2017

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